Session 2 The Past: To deal, To forgive, Move on, To heal

The past can really be the biggest issues of who we are, how function, and how we see things in the future. I mean think about it. Our past turns us from virgins to experienced people; from lovers to haters; and my favorite from those who gives everyone a fair chance to the person that compares everyone to the last bad experience and the person they had it with. Our past can powerful or powerless, but the level of power is up to us. This weekend I dealt with my past. I mean a part of my past that I never dealt, just let go off. This past had some good moments, but mostly bad ones. This past was called "ex." Yeah we all have them ex friends, ex lovers, ex crushes, ex boyfriend/girlfriends, and ex whatever... Well mines were ex boyfriend and ex sex partner. The worst thing to run into when you are trying to make a current relationship work. Running into an ex boyfriend/girlfriend will cause you to second guess you, because they know you, they know the power and titles they use to have. They know how to play on your weak points especially if sex was involved. Exes like that can say one thing that will cause you to flashback and rethink why you all are not together. Now with that one trigger, you seating there sad, disappointed, and asking yourself questions you know the answers to. Questions like: why aren't we together? Why wasn't I good enough? What did I do? These questions lead to emotions that can cause doubt, depression, uncomfortable, and second guessing whose you are. Exes are powerful as you can see; but I realized in dealing with them that they are only as powerful as I or you make them. So back to my weekend. I had the pleasure (yeah, I said pleasure.. being funny actually) to speak with an ex who say he was texting because I had been heavy on his heart and mind. I was so heavy on his mind that he found me on twitter since I am no longer on facebook. I got two messages, I need to talk to you and call me. I called him just to see what was going on and when I did something came over me. I me something I never felt before when it came to this ex. (Brief histroy about this ex: he lied, it hurt, he tried to make up with truth, it was too late, tried it again to prove a point, point prove, and just now in the place of forgiveness. Hope that was brief enough) Any way this ex had really did some damage and though "I thought" I had forgave and forgotten, something in my present marriage told and said other wise. That's why I was so glad GOD and I was in a place that he was healing this area when he contacted me should I say when I contacted him. Though he asked me many questions I was able to answer them and tell him how I truly felt about our relationship and him. After that I was able to truly let go. No looking back, no "I should have said that," and no thinking why aren't we married? As far has the ex sex partner, I spoke and laugh. I realized I was foolish, young, and daring when did and, I am older, wiser, and over it now and so is he. So we hugged, laughed, did some community service, and moved on. I shared all this to say, there is so much you can do with your past, You can live in it as your present, dwell in it as your failure, deal with it selectively, or forgive it, move forward, and realize that the hurt from it is healed.  So whatever you choose know that the health choice is that to forgive, heal, and realize healing will be more productive than trying to figure out the why, how, what, and where of your past you can return to in order to not feel the aftermath of it in your present. Everything is necessary, yes even your past and the people in it.

Session 1: Where Am I?

As we continue to enjoy the first month of a new year I always like to pose the question where are you? Not in the sense of location, but where are you in accomplishing your goals. Where is you vision, your dreams, you confidence, and most importantly, where is your heart? So many times we take this first month of a new year to set goal, write visions, and plan the next steps in your lives, but we neglect to see where we are? We become so wrapped up in what want that we miss out on what we have or where we are. As I as looking on twitter one day I realize that a lot of people were totally dishearten at the fact that they were back at their beginnings. They were back at the place they tried so hard to get way from. Their place of pain, growth, failures, disappointments, heartache, lessons, and place of settling; they were asking themselves how did I get back here again? I think that is a question that we find ourselves asking in June. How did I get back to into this habit? How did he/she get back into my life? How did I get back into a relationship like this? In this session I want to help you answer the question: Where Am I? I want you to realize that where you are, is where you need to be. While reading my Joyce Myer’s reading plan on you version (I suggest everyone go on you version and get into a plan. Just go to www.youversion.com to sign up. Now back to the regular schedule program) I was introduced to Abram. Abram was Abraham’s name before GOD changed it (just in case some the readers didn’t know). Abram had just his place of comfort. Home and GOD told him to leave that which he knew and go to a place where he did not know. Of course like us Abram brought some people that he could trust, love and bring him comfort on this uncomfortable journey. But the person her brought, Lot took what he wanted. It says in Genesis 13 that they parted ways, but Lot to the land that Abram wanted. Ain’t it just like people to take what we want though we never open our mouth to claim it (that’s another lesson for another session)? So after having his mini pity-party GOD spoke to Abram saying: 'Lift your eyes now and look from the place where you are.' GOD did not want Abram to get stuck in his pity-party; He wanted him to take advantage of what was in front of him. After telling him to look GOD then told him: 'Arise, walk in the land through its length and its width, for I give it to you' (Genesis 13:17 NKJV). Even though Abram didn’t get the land he wanted he got the land he needed along with extra. What if Abram just continue with his pity-party and asking GOD where am I, would have been able to enjoy the increase that was given?  Today I want to encourage you. Stop dwelling on the fact that you are back at the place of beginning. Love the fact that GOD has allowed you to start back over not only in your beginning, but a place that can expand your territories later.

New to the Game

I am new to the blogging game and was very hesitant in really starting the blog, but when GOD wakes you up out your good sleep with His plan you must move or continue with the cycle of GOD waking you up out your good sleep. Well I got tired of waking up and really just being disobedient to GOD. So during this season I decided that Obedience is so much better than sacrifice. In other words I would rather do this blog than to walk and as myself, "Why can't I go back to sleep? UGH!" So here I am blogging about whatever GOD lays on my heart; expressing the passion of a woman seeking to be a counselor of change, creating a legacy of success, wanting to be a mentor for the next generation. With all that being said, now you know the motivation behind this blog. Now I think we are ready for our first session. Sometime I will live you with encourage words other times I will leave you with a scripture that provokes my thought and relationship with GOD and people.