Courtship

Yesterday I had the honor of sitting and talking with my friend Ms. Chloe M. Gooden  author and created of the Know Your Worth Rubie Movement and ministry. In our conversation we talk about any and everything but the thing we talk about the most was courtship. If you are single, married, engaged, or looking this blog is for you. I am not going to get deep at all but I wanted to share my heart, because as a woman that has went through all the cycle of a relationship (singleness, marriage, divorce, singleness again)  I realized that the next one I get involved in I want the honor and privilege for it be a courtship. You will know what courtship is when you read the book Song of Solomon. How the bride and groom had their arguments, ups and downs, but through it all they had the support, accountability, and love of family and friends to keep them straight until their wedding night. They had friends that protected their investment in each other, covering them in prayer through the process of courtship, loving them, encouraging them, and making sure they remain in their purpose and will of GOD.  This is courtship to me. The ability to be with one person that purse the father to get to me. The one who says I want to surround myself with people who see my heart of wanting a mate and giving me wisdom on how to pursue, keep, and maintain a healthy, GODly relationship with my mate. I love Proverbs 18:22 " A man that finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor from GOD." That to me is the ultimate instruction for a man in the way that he should pursue his wife until he dies. Keep finding her I don't care if you been married 50 years there is something about her that has developed due to her marriage to you. If you are dating you truly have not arrived yet. There are things about her that you haven't tapped into that cause her to tick, grow, and even become motivated. If you are engaged that doesn't mean that your journey to finding her is over, it simple means that the journey has begun. Don't settle in what you know keep pursing her as though you met for the very first time again. Today I urge you to look  at how your enter, pursue, obtain, maintain, and even purpose relationships. Are you in a place were you dating a person or persons so that you can figure out what you want? Or are you in a place where you are dating, married, or engaged to one person and content where you all are in your relationship with each other that you don't care to get to know each other any more? Wherever you are can I tell you one thing... Courtship is the key to your happiness in GOD when it comes to your relationship on the level of loving with and on purpose. That he wants you to be active in courtship the art of his love in your relationship with detail instructions from his word.

Prayer: Daddy we thank you that even though the world has it's way in how we should pursue relationships and marriage, you have giving us great instructions in your word on what we your daughters and sons should do. Thank you Daddy that we shall be the favor that we should be and the helpmates that we are called to be to our husbands, and they should be the covering that they are called to be along with the priest you purpose them to be. Daddy I lift up every married couple. I plead the blood of Jesus over their marriage, remind them of your word that love is patience, love is kind, it never boost; that what you have joined together no man can tear apart and that means them as well. Daddy remind them that you are a great counselor in all situations and no matter what the issue you can handle it. Daddy remind the husband to find his wife in you for she is the key to his favor in you and remind the wives that their value can't be determine by prize possessions only the blessings that her husband and you speak over her along with her children. Daddy I pray for those engaged to be married. I thank you that they have accepted the call to the process of marriage, cultivate their hearts to receive the work that comes with the title of husband and wife. Help them to deal with arguments in the manner of peace and wisdom, not flesh, feelings, and unwise emotions. Help them to pray for each other daily collectively and individually. Help them to maintain their relationship with you and not getting caught in the details of the a day. Daddy most importantly keep them in a position were they love each other unconditionally.  Daddy I lift up the singles.. OOOOOOOO DADDY being single in a world where sex, sin, and fornication is the normal and expected in our single state is hard. Daddy keep our minds focused on you and your word. Help us to stand on the promise that we are called to your purpose and you have someone that is perfectly made for us. Help us remain patient in our wait and still in our season, waiting on your instructions. In JESUS name! AMEN